Let’s Talk About Moving Forward

I’m often struck by the quiet wisdom of nature, especially when I allow myself to truly notice its lessons. Recently, during a spell of cold and snowy weather, I looked out at my garden and saw the snow had frozen the flowers in place. They were stuck—unable to move forward or back, suspended in time.
This reminded me of the clients I work with as a psychologist. Often, when they first come to see me, they too are frozen. Not physically like the flowers, but emotionally and mentally. Many aren’t even aware of it at first but the least little thing that occurs, or comment received from another, can lead to them snapping. Not physically but mentally in terms of frustration, anger or they may just go inside and isolate themselves from loved ones.

Perhaps a recent experience has left them feeling anxious, depressed, or stuck in repetitive cycles of thought—like being on a treadmill they can’t step off. They might feel exhausted, snappy with loved ones or colleagues, and disconnected from their natural way of being.
Sometimes, they attribute their distress to others:
“If only they hadn’t done X, Y, or Z, I wouldn’t feel this way.”
More often, though, they blame themselves, holding onto beliefs like:
“It’s my fault.” 😞
“I’m useless.” 😔
“I’m not good enough.” 😢
While fleeting negative thoughts are normal for most people, these clients see them as facts, keeping them frozen in place.

Now, I don’t have the power of the sun to melt the snow and free the flowers in my garden. But in therapy, I can create the conditions for growth. Many clients tell me they feel truly heard and understood—sometimes for the first time. That’s where change begins. Together, we challenge those old, outdated beliefs and nurture new, empowering ones:
“I am good enough.” 🌟
“It’s not my fault.” 💪
“I have value.” 🌿
When clients embrace these beliefs, I’ve witnessed incredible transformations. They take steps they never thought possible, like moving to a new country, applying for promotions, or setting healthy boundaries in relationships—at home, at work, or socially.
It’s an immense privilege to walk alongside my clients on this journey.

Have you ever felt frozen by recurring thoughts or past experiences? Have they kept you from moving forward and living the life you want?
Let’s start a conversation in the comments—I’d love to hear your story.
And if you’d like to explore these challenges in a more personal, confidential way, I offer a FREE 20-minute Zoom consultation on this website where yu will find the link.