It’s no secret that families can be complicated. Family dynamics can be a fraught with challenges, some may even consider danger. Maybe you feel that you must adopt a specific role such as the ‘people pleaser’ or ‘scapegoat’ and you’ve noticed how you change your behaviour to be acceptable. Maybe you’ve been raised in an ‘authoritarian’ household where you have noticed that you are expected to follow what one member wants without question. You don’t believe you can’t step out of line and feel that your voice is not important. Failure to adhere to the often-unwritten rules is usually met with punishment, such as silent treatment rather than constructive feedback, until you fall back into line.  Or maybe you have been raised in a competitive household. Each member is strongly encouraged to outshine the other members to gain recognition. Your worth is based on what you can achieve not on the person you are irrespective of your achievements. This leaves you feeling that you cannot be your true self. That you must be what other members what you to be acceptable to have any worth. I know it feels risky to voice your concerns. You don’t want to ‘rock the boat’ so you keep your head down and get on with the job. That’s what you’ve learnt in life!